I want to start writing some general thoughts about people, an incredibly difficult task given that everyone is different yet we are all basically the same. Let me start by saying that we need many good relationships with others for healthy living; and at the very basic core of every healthy relationship is trust between two people. Without trust, relationships cannot be more than transactional (and even then at least some trust must exist to be willing to transact). If you think this is very basic information, then perhaps you already have many healthy relationships.
Trust is the reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, and surety of another person. Having trust means having the confidence that the other person will perform according to your understanding, expectations and mutual agreement. This is absolutely critical for a good relationship. Trust is critical for a healthy marriage. I will go as far as saying that it is better to have no relationship at all, than to have one that is not based on mutual trust. Even in a small family, a young child must be able to trust her parents. Elderly parents must be able to trust their grown children. No trust is created overnight or by an action or based on just words. Trust is earned over long time, only after our actions time and again prove that we have integrity and ability to act with strength even in difficult situations.
In order for trust to exist in our relationships, we must do everything possible to be trustworthy! If we are not trustworthy, there is no reason for others to trust us and there is no way to have healthy relationships based on trust. Your goal must be to do everything that you can to always be trustworthy. You must do this before you can ever expect others to be trustworthy or before you can expect them to trust you. You have the abilities already; I believe everyone does. Be true to yourself, keep your promises, exercise your integrity, in difficult situations choose the right path and follow it, be genuine, and uphold the golden rule. Be trustworthy, earn people’s trust in all your dealings and good people will reward you with good relationships that last a lifetime.